Calm Writer

Finding the right words

Month: January 2016

Black and White


One day a professor entered the classroom and asked his students to prepare for a surprise test. They waited anxiously at their desks for the test to begin. The professor handed out the question paper, with the text facing down as usual. Once he handed them all out, he asked his students to turn the page and begin. To everyone’s surprise, there were no questions….just a black dot in the center of the page. The professor seeing the expression on everyone’s face, told them the following:

“I want you to write what you see there.”

The students confused, got started on the inexplicable task.

At the end of the class, the professor took all the answer papers and started reading each one of them aloud in front of all the students. All of them with no exceptions, described the black dot, trying to explain its position in the middle of the sheet, etc. etc. etc. After all had been read, the classroom silent, the professor began to explain:

“I am not going to grade on you this, I just wanted to give you something to think about. No one wrote about the white part of the paper. Everyone focused on the black dot – and the same happens in our lives. We have a white paper to observe and enjoy, but we always focus on the dark spots. Our life is a gift given to us by God, with love and care, and we always have reasons to celebrate – nature renewing itself everyday, our friends around us, the job that provides our livelihood, the miracles we see everyday…….

However we insist on focusing only on the dark spots – the health issues that bother us, the lack of money, the complicated relationship with a family member, the disappointment with a friend etc

The dark spots are very small compared to everything we have in our lives, but they are the ones that pollute our minds.

We must take our eyes away from the black spots in our life. Enjoy each blessing, each moment that life has given us.

Be happy and live positively!

Aye Mere Watan Ke Logo

Aye mere vatan ke logon, jara aankh me bhar lo paani
Jo shahid huye hain unaki, jara yaad karo kurbaani

Wow! What a song! How soulful and meaningful were the lyrics!

We often forget to pay tribute to the lyricists who put life into the song. We get mesmerised by the things in the forefront.

This song was written by Kavi Pradeep as a tribute to the soldiers who died fighting for the country during the Sino Indian war.This masterpiece had brought tears in Jawaharlal Nehru’s eyes when Lata Mangeshkar had sung it for the first time.

Ramachandra Narayanji Dwivedi,also known as kavi Pradeep was a famous Indian poet and songwriter. His other songs include Door Hato Ae Duniya Walo (Move Away O Outsiders),Chal Chal Re Naujawan in film Bandhan (1940) and Aao Bachcho Tumhein Dikhayen and De Dee Hame Azaadi Bina Khadag Bina Dhaal in film Jagriti (1954).

In 1997, he was honoured by India’s highest award in Cinema, the Dada Saheb Phalke Award for Lifetime Achievement.

Be organised to be happy

“A place for everything, and everything in its place” – Mrs Beeton (The book of household management)

I feel happy and excited to read these words. If we are organised, life becomes happy, simple, productive and interesting. Being organised makes life more functional and less frustrating.

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The World of Self-Improvement Formulae

I hate reading self-improvement books because the theory is clear to me and most of us, most of the time. It’s usually a combination of regular advices: change, work hard, focus, dream. I have been getting these advices since school days. Who has not been told these?

“Do your homework daily. Give importance to big things.”

I did homework, not daily, though. I gave importance to big things, however, the smaller things also got in the way too often. Hours of watching cricket and crap TV programs I don’t remember now, while I should have trained to be more disciplined and done other significant things.

Self-Improvement Woes

While reading self-improvement books, the voice in my head says, “Stop nagging me. Let me get on with living my life. The theory is all good. It is always the practice, the actions, I struggle with. Actions speak louder than words.”

Analysis for Fun and Profit

I use self-help books and articles for entertainment and profit now. I try figuring out how the same advice can be repackaged and sold. How do they make this kind of content interesting? How do these famous self-help gurus package advice any grown up can give to others, into a book, and sell million copies of it?

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What are handbags? Why are they used? Is it serving its purpose?

A handbag is nothing but a purse to carry our things. Earlier, the handbags were invented for a different purpose. It was a medium to carry money while women went for a short walk. Some cash in hand that could come to use in emergency. Handbags were a symbol of pride and dignity. While the other rich carried it in their hands, the women viewed them with jealousy. 

Handbags have underwent drastic changes  since centuries in design, usage, quality and cost. People get used to all kinds of changes in a short span of time.

In the present twenty second century , fashion is the top priority to decide anything. Most of the women no longer think of all the factors before buying. They choose the one which is trendy.The design
Of the handbag should be cordial worth its usage. What is the use of having a big handbag when the space is undivided and dumping all the things is the only option? Instead a small handbag with space divided will for keeping things in an organised way is much appreciated.

I would suggest  all to buy a handbag not just looking at the design but also the usage. 

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A simple and beautiful life

Anyone can love a rose,but it takes a lot to love a leaf. It’s ordinary to love the beautiful, but it’s beautiful to love the ordinary”.

Wow! What a beautiful quote! Talks about a simple thought but it’s quite powerful. Everything is beautiful but not everyone sees it said Confucius. Both the quotes have profound message.

I particularly like this thought a lot. I believe that we tend to forget small things which brings in a lot of happiness. Being simple and ordinary is one the most complicated issue these days. It is very important to understand that the happiest people don’t have the best of everything, they just make the best of everything.

Everything has its value, even the very tiniest thing does. We need to learn to know the value of everything and make use of this knowledge. I recently read this story.

“There was once a Zen Master, who was about to take a bath. His student had prepared the water for him. The water was so cold that the Master told his student to change it for him, “Fetch me warm water!” The student threw the cold water away and fetched warm water for his teacher. When the Master saw his student throw the cold water away, he said to him, “Why do you throw water away unprofitably? Everything has its value, even a drop of water has its value. If you water a flower, it will nurture the flower. And it is not only the flower that profits from this, for the water also feels useful and helpful to the flower and the flower will decorate the earth beautifully.”

Life is beautiful in its ordinary terms. Let’s not make it complicated.

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